Compliments Can Feed an Eating Disorder

One thing I am enjoying about following Twitter is I learn about new bloggers that I probably would not otherwise. Here’s an interesting post, and a very good blog on eating disorders, Borderless Thinking. It’s worth a look. Here’s a brief excerpt:

Virtually everyone believes that paying someone a compliment is merely a nice thing to do. However, compliments can serve to instill standards of behavior or quality characteristics that reflect the opinions of the giver and/or of society. When, as in this case, the compliments are reinforcing the unhealthy or unrealistic standards of beauty perpetuated by a media and society obsessed with waif-like thinness, they can have a negative effect. When people told Lackey how good she looked after losing weight, they were effectively telling her she looked better thinner than she had looked at her normal body weight of 125 lbs.


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Clinical Psychologist practicing in the Los Feliz neighborhood of Los Angeles, California.

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